March 15th, 2009

Nice Guy or Good Man?

So, for those of you who’ve already seen the sneak preview of my video late Friday night, I’m re-posting as it relates to the subject of this blog.

When I first heard Beyonce’s “Halo” on the radio, her voice sounded quite similar to Rihanna, and I assumed it was Rihanna’s new single. Having already learned about Rihanna’s ordeal with Chris Brown, when I heard the chorus, “I can see your halo halo halo / I can feel your halo halo halo …,” I exclaimed, “Are you serious?! Are you being ironic here?”

Then, I realized it was Beyonce on the second verse. But the song intrigued me, and the more I listened, the more David came to mind, as others have already stated here, especially when many of his fans were already quick to place the halo around his head just weeks after being introduced to him. What exactly is that essense, that quality, that light so many of us were able to detect early?

In a recent interview, the author John J. Moser identified David as a “nice guy,” and for some reason, “nice guy” rings hollow. You see, David is that “good man” we always heard about, you know, the kind blues singer Bessie Smith said was “hard to find.”

A nice guy is just conscious about making a good impression on others, which David is, but a good man is simply conscientious. A good man has a fully developed conscience. Who here would doubt David’s highly developed conscience and conscientiousness?

A nice guy is often selfless and puts others ahead of him, as David does, sometimes at his own expense. But, a good man is selfless because he’s already thinking of the greater good and the bigger picture, which inevitably includes himself as well, thus selflessness includes the self as part of the overall project of doing so much good in the world.

A nice guy could never be wicked, but a good man could be wicked but wouldn’t. I do think David, having grown up in this world and in this society and in his generation, has been exposed to various negative influences but has consciously made the decision to choose the path of good vs. evil.

A nice guy is often viewed as weak, easily duped, and gets taken advantage of. A good man is strong, appears to be naive but is wily enough to avoid the appearance of evil. Which do you think best describes David?

Last but not least, a nice guy often gets no respect. A good man always gets respect. And we can talk about how hot or sexy or smexy David looks and performs 24/7, or how angelic his voice sounds, but what has got us on the O.D.D. train and what has earned our respect is his bonafide goodness. It’s why we’re so “addicted to his light.” Who would not be in awe at stories of David urging his fans to not line up at a venue too early in freezing temperatures, or weep when David automatically and tenderly grabs the hand of a fan who’s going through cancer?

It’s very tempting to think David is otherworldly with this deadly combination of talent, good looks, and goodness, but he is very much of this world. He’s simply that mythical and legendary “good man.” Except David is real.

- Hello Gorgeous

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